This Is The Most Important Part Of Your Breathing

Observe Your Breathing Like a Curious Friend

Start by treating your body as a friend you’re simply curious about. No judging, no trying to “breathe correctly” or force air into your belly — just watch how your friend breathes all on its own.

Sit comfortably and gently notice your exhale. The exhale is passive — you don’t need muscles to push the air out. It’s simply a relaxation of the muscles you used to breathe in.

Observe: Are you letting the air flow out slowly and naturally, or are you pushing it out? Normally, the exhale gets slower… slower… slower… until it naturally stops. Then there’s a brief, effortless pause before the next breath reflex kicks in.

Can you feel that tiny pause at the end of the exhale? Many people have lost that feeling. The trouble starts when we jump in and take the next breath before the reflex has a chance to happen — because we don’t trust it will come on its own.

When we push out the breath and grab the next one too soon, we lose too much CO₂. That quickly throws chemistry off balance and symptoms appear — tension, brain fog, mood swings, jaw pain, gut issues, chronic fatigue… the list is long and different for everyone.

Learning to trust the natural pause rebuilds that trust with your body (and often becomes a powerful metaphor for trust in other areas of life).

If stress or mysterious symptoms are part of your daily life, start here: Your Breathing May Be The Source Of Your Problems.